What's the Problem? by Kwaku Gyamfi

“Hello… What’s the problem? Are you crying?... He has beaten you?... You’ve been quarrelling with him again eh… You say you are hurt?… Don’t worry it will heal… The cut is deep?... But there are people with deep tribal marks… Is he at home?... He has left to the other woman’s place?... How do you know?... A friend called?... What bad company have you been keeping? She is just hurting you. Don’t go close to her again. She wants your downfall… You say he hit you because you said he is a cheat? You too what’s your problem? I’ve always told you to let him be; he will return to his senses. He has been bewitched. All these husband snatchers who the devil has employed will not succeed. God forbid. Fight for your marriage… You say you want a divorce? Are you mad? Don’t you know it will affect the children? They need their father. Don’t be stupid… You say what? If you don’t leave him one of you might die… Now I know you are fool… What are you talking about?... What?! Sometimes you feel like hitting him in the head with a brick… But why? All because he is cheating?... You can’t take it any longer? But what’s your problem? He is a man, and men have needs. The last time, he said you didn’t want to sleep with him… You say he is lying?... And you say it’s no cause for cheating even if it was true?... Ah but a man has needs. You say you don’t deny him… But seriously a man can’t live with one woman. Just look at the animal kingdom, one male to so many females. It’s nature. They can’t help it… The females have no obligation to males to keep their chastity either?… We are not in the jungle? We are humans. Is that what you are telling me? With this mouth of yours, I am not surprised he has been abusing you. You are a woman for God’s sake; learn to be submissive… You say he is supposed to love you too? Oh but he does… What are you saying? Your line is breaking… If he loves you he wouldn’t be doing what he is doing? You are so wrong. Doesn’t he feed his children? Doesn’t he give you clothes to wear?... Yes, he can take care of anyone he wants with his money, including the woman and her children… It’s not fair? What on earth are you talking about? He performs all his responsibilities and that’s what is important; it doesn’t matter that you started the business and he is using it to take care of his mistress so far as he takes care of you and the family. In any case you are his helper, a helper. That’s what you’ll ever be… You are still saying you want to divorce him. You might come out getting nothing… You’ve spoken to that lawyer friend of yours? O.K. What did he say? Oh O.K he told you to be patient; ah that’s a wise fellow. Ah wasn’t he the same lawyer you told me had impregnated his wife’s sister and had arranged an abortion for her… Oh so he is the one, hahaha, my memory isn’t so bad after all. Take his advice. He said you will not be left empty handed when you indeed divorced him?… Yes, what he says is true; it will take a long time… You need to pray for your marriage. When was the last time you fasted?... You don’t remember? You, you really need prayers. Oh, the line is dead.”